Psychology of relationships: the pros and cons of online dating.

There are many stories when, after many years of trial and error in real life, people found each other on the Internet. Romance, wedding, children, everything is like in a movie. This, of course, is a plus. But there are other stories when cute naive shy girls go on a date appointed in virtual correspondence and are disappointed in interlocutors who do not match the online image (and what is more important is not even external beauty, but behavior).

After all, if we talk about human psychology, success, victories, the ability to please are important for him. And after several dates with "fictional" characters, complexes can develop, at least self-doubt and the idea that it is problematic to achieve success. This is a minus.

In virtual communication, it is easy to start and maintain a conversation: there is time to think over phrases, you can re-read the partner’s statement, peep something interesting on the same Internet and screw in a “smart thought” in time, in general, express yourself to the fullest. This is a plus. But, on the other hand, virtual correspondence is just as easy to end for both parties - the person simply stops communicating, disappears without explanation. No responsibility. This is a minus.

Psychology is a delicate thing, and imperceptibly for oneself over the years it becomes more and more difficult for a person to communicate with strangers. At the university, several friends were added every day, and real ones, not virtual ones. And it cost nothing to meet a girl or a guy at a party or on a walk in the park. With age, this is either no longer necessary, or a habit of communicating only with old acquaintances appears, or doubts about the ability to make acquaintances in principle settle, there is a fear of talking to a stranger.

In this case, as well as for shy people who find it difficult to make new acquaintances in real life, the Internet is a good way out. More precisely, the entrance to the world of communication, which has been closed to them for a long time. This is a plus.

But the same age and circumstances can cause false data in the profile on a dating site. For example, a married man will not always indicate his real status. And a girl who is fascinated by him may be bitterly disappointed when she finds out the truth, when the relationship becomes reality, and passions are already boiling. This is a minus. In addition, from such shocks, the state of health can be shaken.

And a little about the details. In correspondence, you can use all kinds of emoticons, stickers, even small cartoons that will describe the state or sudden emotion to the interlocutor. Simplicity (selected and sent) and their diversity allows you to express a wide range of feelings (and for human psychology, the search for simpler solutions is relevant). This is a plus. But it will not be your facial expressions, not your gestures and not your appearance, laughter, voice - here, again, the psychology of behavior comes to the fore. Only in real communication do interlocutors read the subtle details of facial expressions, gestures, intonations, which determine how attractive a person is. Even the smell is important, you can’t feel it over the network, but meanwhile, a natural aroma can both attract and turn away.